When it comes to being a woman in 2018, you know that the whole narrative of ‘women power’ has kicked far more than ever before and while some might think that society has taken it too far in placing emphasis on everything a woman is now, on the contrary to what she’s ‘supposed’ to be, each woman as an individual is setting their own rules. With that being said and with the entire idea and culture around the difference between a woman and man are changing, there are still many challenges to be faced. In fact, the conversation just started.
We are being judged day in and day out. Whether it’s regarding the way we look, our weight, the clothes we wear, being too modest, being too confident, being too shy and even, trying to take the lead in a relationship at times.
I mean, is it okay for a woman to earn more money than a man? Is it okay for a woman to wait till she’s in her 40’s to get pregnant without being judged and also, is it okay for a woman to play the boyfriend card and try and get her man back without being frowned upon?
It all comes down to your dignity.
We as a generation, are experiencing a shift in everything we know. Technology is changing every single day of our lives, whether we notice and accept it, or not. If you think about the dating game in general, we’re even experiencing a normality of online dating. Referring to the 90’s and early 2000’s, or any time prior to that, online dating didn’t exist and when it was presented to the world, it was not supported by the majority of society as it seemed dangerous to talk to a complete stranger over a computer or smart device.
Taking into consideration that something like Uber has also been normalized from being a foreign concept of not getting into cars with strangers, to be the next best thing when it comes to having to get somewhere and not having to be worried about your safety.
Point is, times have changed and while it took a long time to get to this point where the concepts that were shunned upon became normal, as did the idea of playing almost the bigger role when it comes to a relationship.
Women used to be scared of expressing their feelings or being too bold in a relationship or towards a guy, but the entire game has changed.
You know that superhero idea of a man that saves the woman, or get’s that girl… Well, the tables have turned and it’s your time to get your guy and go about it in the right way.
Now, this could play out to be either really good or really bad. The key is to check yourself and not sacrifice your dignity because no matter how desperate you are, it’s just one thing that should never be recognized or shown. This will not only help you to get your man back but also help you do so without losing your confidence or getting hurt because chances are you’re already hurt in some way.
You Broke Up, But Why?
So, now that we’ve established that you have to hold onto your dignity for dear life before actually considering the idea of getting him back, you need to establish exactly why you broke up.
Perhaps the answer to this question is relatively simple, perhaps there’s a lot of reasons why you broke up and maybe you’ve even broken up several times.
It doesn’t matter what the case is, if you really want him back, you have to go the right way about it.
Another question to ask yourself first is, how hurt are you and why are you hurt. You should definitely start dissecting your feelings right about now because you don’t want to get into it and halfway down the line decide that you really don’t want him anymore and that you were just hurting.
It’s important to take time after a break up to analyze why you broke up and whether or not the relationship had a negative impact on you in any way. For instance, if you broke up because he didn’t value you, treated you in the wrong way, treated other girls in the right way or were too friendly with other girls while dating you, you need to take a moment and ask yourself, do you really want to put up with that and is the relationship going to be good for you?
Was Your Relationship with Your Ex Really Worth It?
If he did treat you in a bad way or at any point made you feel negative or bad about who you are and your self-worth, then chances are it’s in your best interest to let him go. Same goes for wanting to take him back if he’s cheated or disrespected you. This is also the part where dignity comes into play again. Is he really worth it?
Know Your Self-Worth Before Wanting to Get Him Back
So, why do you want him back? Because, if the reason is solid, then we’ll get right on it. But, if you’re reading this and second-guessing yourself and second-guessing him and the type of boyfriend he was to you previously, you should probably move on, but if he’s great and exactly what’s good for you, go get him, girl!
The importance of emphasizing the significance of your self-cannot be stressed enough because women are more impacted by how a guy treats a girl than a girl treats a guy. This is the one difference between a woman and man. Yes, a man can be emotional and have a lot of feelings, but they’re not romantic about it. If a girl breaks up with a guy that really likes her, perhaps he’ll wallow for a while, perhaps he’ll move on immediately… Thing is, guys have a way of not showing their emotions and women do.
If a guy breaks up with a girl, whether they’ve been dating for long or not, the girl will feel in some sense that she did something wrong and that’s got to end.
Knowing your self-worth and whether a man deserves you (without being vain about it) or not, is the first thing you have to realize before starting the process of wanting to take him back. It’s never okay to sacrifice your heart for anything. Women aren’t weak, they just tend to have a lot more emotions and empathy than most men and thus have to protect their heart.
So, step one, know your self-worth girl and protect it.